Take yourself out of context

I'm back after a long absence. I hope from now on I shall start sitting myself in front of the keyboard more often and remember the joy of putting my brain down on paper. Well, on the screen anyway.

This is going to be a bit of an angry post, that I want to start with one of my favorite quotes. Aristotel once said "we are the sum of all the people we meet our entire lives". Lately I have found myself returning to these words more and more. One of the things that has struck me lately in the dating world is that people just can't seem to be able to get themselves out of their own way. Starting with all the movies and media that tell us to find our own way and to develop our own personality (and then buy the damn product!), it seems more and more people can't just sit back and enjoy life.

Ok, I probably have you wondering by now just what the heck I am on about. Let me spell it out for you: I am finding more and more people getting in the way of their own feelings. They become so set in their own ways that they just pass up opportunity after opportunity because "he is too tall", "she is not blonde", "he doesn't like the same restaurants as I do" and so on and so forth. Have we become so picky and peculiar that we just can't see the forest for the trees?

What ever happened to priorities? Or should I say, what ever happened to values and priorities that actually matter? Just think about this for a minute: are things like a bad joke, a wrong choice of shoes or some quirky taste in music so important for our happiness? What about the "small" things like getting along? Or like talking for hours and not being able to get enough of that person? Or maybe even having fun with his/her group of friends?

Somehow I thing we are missing the point in all this dating thing. We want too much from people who want too little.

Now let's try a bit of an experiment. Getting back to what Aristotel said, think about this: what would you be like if you had never met that one person who tends to get into you thoughts more often than food? Somehow I think this should be out guiding point for getting our heads and more importantly, our hearts back in the right place. Just imagine not having met that person. What would be different about your life? Would your opinions be different? Would your thought be more productive, more creative? Would you take better care of yourself? Would you be a better person?

As for me, I would just focus on that last question. Am I a better person, having met her? More experienced, definitely. More mature? Yes. But better? Or was I just trying to be a better person for her? Damn!

Talent

Each one of us has an unique talent. I have always believed this to be true. And I don't necesarily mean an artistic talent. It could be something small, meaningless to the outside world. It could be something irelevant. It could be something silly, that you only do in the privacy of your own room. But everyone has a talent.

What is mine? I've often wondered. I can play a couple of instruments, I can make some pictures, I can even write sometimes. But I do none of those things very well. I can only do them... adequately. I believe my talent is expresing emotion. Passing on something unpalpable to another person, but at the same time something very real. A feeling. A smile. Sorrow.

So what is my problem then? Well, I can't seem to be able to do it consistently. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. I have tried to figure out why, and the best thing I was able to come up with is... well, the lack of a proper medium of expresion. A way to send out whatever I want to express. So I have reached a decision. I shall be trying out an exercise. For one week, for the forseable future, I shall pick one emotion and try to express it in whatever way I can, without using the word to describe it. I'm not sure if this will work in unlocking the creative block I have at the moment. But it got me excited enough that I forgot I was washing my teeth for about 6 minutes. That's good enough for me.

So stick aroung. There may be some interesting post coming up soon.